Becoming Anchored S3E4: The Loneliness of Perfectionism with Lauren Martin

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 In this episode of Becoming Anchored, hosts Lauren Jackson and Laura Deneen are joined by Lauren Martin, a fellow therapist and expert on perfectionism, to delve into the profound topic of the loneliness of perfectionism. Lauren Martin shares her insights on how perfectionism can lead to isolation, the concept of masking, and the importance of authenticity in overcoming these challenges. 

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

  • Understanding Perfectionism and Loneliness: They explore how perfectionism is more than just striving for flawlessness; it's about adhering to a rigid vision of how things "should" be, which can lead to isolation and loneliness when reality doesn't match these expectations.
  • The Concept of Masking: They discuss the idea of masking—when one's external persona doesn't match internal feelings—and how this incongruence can exacerbate feelings of loneliness. Lauren Martin explains how masking is common among perfectionists and offers strategies to become more authentic.
  • Overcoming Perfectionism: The episode provides practical steps for recognizing perfectionistic tendencies, such as "clocking" when you're performing rather than being genuine. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, asking for help, and embracing imperfections as part of personal growth.

Join us as we uncover the hidden loneliness that often accompanies perfectionism and learn how to cultivate genuine connections by embracing authenticity.

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