Three Mindful Ways to Be Less Critical of Yourself

Three Mindful Ways to Be Less Critical of Yourself

Self-criticism can be a heavy burden to carry, often rooted in our past experiences or influenced by those around us. Whether you're hard on yourself because of feedback from others or you're simply trying to understand why you're so self-critical, it's important to know that you're not alone. In this blog, we'll explore three effective ways to be less critical of yourself and bring more compassion into your life.

Cultivate Self-Compassion

The first step in reducing self-criticism is developing self-compassion. Dr. Kristin Neff has done extensive work in this area, explaining that compassion begins with acknowledging that pain and suffering are part of the human experience. When we accept this, we can start to soften the harsh judgment we place on ourselves.

Self-compassion involves recognizing your emotions without judgment and intentionally showing yourself kindness in those difficult moments. For example, when you notice you're being critical, try saying, “I’m feeling really hard on myself right now, and I choose to let that go.” This practice of curiosity over shame allows you to explore your feelings without immediately spiraling into self-blame.

A helpful question to ask yourself is, “What’s blocking me from showing myself compassion?” Understanding these barriers—whether they stem from feeling undeserving or unworthy—can be the key to breaking the cycle of self-criticism.

Notice the Environments That Trigger Self-Criticism

The second way to reduce self-criticism is to become aware of the environments or people that tend to trigger those feelings. Is there a specific person in your personal or professional life who consistently makes you feel criticized? Or perhaps it’s a certain situation that leads you to be hard on yourself.

Once you’ve identified these patterns, ask yourself what you need in those moments to feel supported instead of criticized. Sometimes, it might be setting boundaries or changing your environment. Other times, it could be a matter of reframing the way you view criticism and separating it from your self-worth.

Re-Parent Yourself

Finally, a powerful way to combat self-criticism is through the practice of re-parenting. This involves looking back at unmet needs from childhood and understanding how those experiences may have shaped your inner critic. Were there moments when you weren’t shown the love or acceptance you needed? Were you constantly seeking approval or trying to meet impossible standards?

Re-parenting allows your adult self to step in and meet those needs, offering the love, care, and validation you may not have received in the past. Imagine how you would speak to a child in a similar situation—with patience, gentleness, and encouragement. You deserve to offer that same grace to yourself.

By cultivating self-compassion, becoming aware of triggering environments, and practicing re-parenting, you can begin to break free from the cycle of self-criticism. Remember, it’s a process that takes time, but each step toward kindness and gentleness with yourself is a step toward healing.

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Laura

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