In a society that often celebrates flawlessness, it is easy to fall into the trap of perfectionism and believe it is the path to a fulfilling life.
In reality, perfectionism is a crippling pursuit of unattainable standards that often leads to anxiety, depression, social isolation, increased stress, and burnout. Holding ourselves or others to impossible standards often results in shame and disappointment.
Recognizing that the pursuit of perfectionism is not supportive to your mental health is the first step toward healing.
At Becoming Anchored, we are here to provide hope and support you on your journey to true fulfillment, confidence, and wellness. We understand how difficult perfectionism can be, however, we believe you are capable of fostering self-compassion.
4 Mindful Ways to Let Go of Perfectionism
I hope these compassionate strategies will help you pivot from perfectionism, discover your innate self-worth, and cultivate lasting kindness.
1. Accepting Mistakes as Learning Opportunities
I kindly invite you to recognize mistakes as part of being human.
When you recognize that errors are inevitable, you can begin to focus your response to how you respond to these mistakes. Rather than sinking into judgement and shame, I encourage you to cultivate compassion and curiosity.
Mistakes, while painful, can be wonderful learning opportunities.
2. Approaching Over Avoiding
You can break the paralysis of perfectionism by setting realistic deadlines and allowing yourself to complete tasks imperfectly.
You may find it helpful to take breaks as you work on something. Eat a meal or snack, walk outside, or splash cold water on your face.
Approaching, rather than avoiding, encourages action and helps alleviate the anxiety of needing to be perfect.
3. Practicing Self-Compassion
Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer to a friend, which can significantly lower the often debilitating voice of a loud inner critic.
Inspired by Kristin Neff’s work, learning to recognize and name our emotions without judgement is crucial.
4. Shifting From Perfectionism to Excellence
Shifting from perfectionism to excellence does not mean compromising our integrity or character. Instead, it allows us to show up authentically, both for ourselves and in our relationships.
By adopting a mindset that values growth and sincerity over flawless performance, we can find greater satisfaction, joy, and wellness.
Friend, remember that moving through perfectionism is not about lowering your standards but redefining what success looks like and honoring your humanity.
Additional Resources
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Empowering Affirmation:
“I am enough and my mistakes are stepping stones to growth.”
Let’s set sail into a world where we can be proud of our efforts, regardless of the outcome, and where we can offer ourselves grace in the face of challenges.
Becoming Anchored in Hope,
Laura
LPC-MHSP, CEDS-C, ACS, NCC
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How To Let Go of Perfectionism
