Motherhood is a profound and multifaceted journey, filled with both joy and challenges. At Becoming Anchored, we recognize that supporting yourself through motherhood is complex. Here, we'll explore four practical ways to support yourself if you are struggling in your journey of motherhood.
Ask for More Help
One of the most crucial steps in supporting yourself is to ask for more help. Our culture often perpetuates the myth that we should be able to do it all, but the reality is we can't. This unrealistic expectation sets us up for failure and burnout, especially as new moms. Reflect on whether it's hard for you to ask for help and whether you've set unrealistic expectations for yourself. Identify small ways to access different types of help. Can you ask family members, your partner, or friends for more support? Consider seeking additional therapy sessions if needed. Remember, it's okay to need help, and you don't have to do it all alone.
Notice Perfectionism
Perfectionism can sneak into various aspects of motherhood, leading to unrealistic standards for yourself and your children. Practice self-compassion and kindness when your standards are not met. Recognize that perfection is unattainable and unnecessary. Share your struggles with safe, supportive people, and understand that no one has it all together at all times. By acknowledging and addressing perfectionist tendencies, you can create a more compassionate and realistic approach to motherhood.
Identify What Fills Your Cup
Consider what activities and interests bring you joy and fulfillment apart from being a mom. Think about hobbies or activities that you enjoyed before becoming a mom. Do you like gardening, working part-time or full-time, or scheduling monthly outings with friends? Engaging in activities that tap into your creativity and passions helps you maintain a sense of self beyond motherhood. Rediscovering and nurturing your personal interests can significantly enhance your well-being.
Connect with Others
Building a supportive community is vital for navigating the challenges of motherhood. Reach out to other moms, join support groups, or participate in community activities. Sharing experiences and receiving support from others who understand can be incredibly uplifting. Creating a network of supportive relationships can provide emotional and practical support, helping you navigate the complexities of motherhood.
By implementing these strategies, you can support yourself more effectively in motherhood and create a more balanced and fulfilling life. Remember, it's okay to seek help, embrace imperfection, and prioritize your own well-being alongside caring for your family.
AFFIRMATION OF THE DAY: I practice self-compassion and release unrealistic standards of perfection.
Becoming Anchored in Support,
Laura Deneen
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